Do you find yourself super unmotivated to do anything but eat, drink and be merrily lazy this time of year? If so, I’m 100% with you. As the weather outside is gets colder, all I want to do is curl up with a cozy blanket by the fire and binge watch Gilmore Girls for like the 15th time.
(And watching those Gilmore’s eat whatever garbage they can get their paws on while still fitting into their boot cut jeans somehow makes me delusional that a GF veggie pizza is a health food, because, you know, vegetables!)
The struggle to get sh*t done during the holidays is real. After all, haven’t we worked hard all year? And weren’t we kind of trained growing up to feel entitled to a long winter’s nap, I mean, break?
Maybe you’re lucky enough to get some decent time off during the holidays but it hardly feels that way because time off means the kids are out of school and family is in town and...cue a montage of the first 15 minutes of Home Alone.
Worst of all, amidst all of the chaos of cookie baking, turkey basting and your deep, deep desire to sleep in and mindlessly binge watch whatever, you’ve got that writing goal you’d set for yourself hanging over you like the freaking ghost of Ambitious-You Past.
(Cue ghostly voice) "But yooou said yooou would finish your booooook thiiiis yeeeeeaaar."
If you relate to this and have been struggling to find motivation, here are 3 likely reasons behind your Great Holiday Cop Out and some practical tips to take you from ho-hum to ho-ho-HOT for writing this season:
Reason 1: You don’t know your why.In order to stay motivated you need to know why you’re doing it or what your end goal is. Without a solid purpose for doing the do, you’re going to prioritize everything else first (and this time of year that list is a LONG one).
So how do you get clarity around your why? Answer these questions:
Reason 2: You have no urgency (or deadline)
I love deadlines. When I’m given a real deadline with consequences for not meeting it, I always deliver. BUT, this has landed me in a world of hurt when it comes to my own personal writing projects. I might want to do something but without a clear deadline or sense of urgency, I’ll push it off forever. I hate when things feel arbitrary. There’s no logical reason I can’t push it off for another day. But I realized I had to get smart and figure out a way to stay motivated even when no one was really waiting on my writing.
So how do you create urgency and deadlines for yourself? Try these 4 strategies:
Reason 3: You have no boundaries or accountability
For some of you, just doing the above exercises will be enough. But for the wonderful, lovable, people-pleasers out there, you’re likely so busy doing so many things for other people, finding the time for yourself feels near impossible.
For you, dear one, you need boundaries and accountability if you’re going to follow through. Let’s talk about boundaries first:
You can’t allow anything to get in the way of you accomplishing your goal so you have to say no to anything that may get in the way and make it clear to the people in your life that you need that time.
And that’s where accountability comes into play. Because you’re naturally inclined to please others, use it to fuel your momentum by getting an accountability buddy! Whether it’s a writing bestie, a mentor, or a coach, find someone who will hold you accountable for following through.
So there you have it, 3 real reasons behind the holiday cop out how to work around them.
Now just in case you think I’m kind of a Grinch for forcing you to work when you should be fa-la la-ing, think about it this way instead:
It’s mid-November. What kind of push do you need to do so you can give yourself the gift of a couple of weeks off at the end of the year (100% ghost free)?
I know you’ve got this and I’m here to support you in any way I can!
Cheers to you gifting yourself with your #1 writing goal checked off your list!
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