How to really have it all...

Have you ever felt like you do have it all, and it’s KILLING you? Seriously. I know I have...
Rewind to spring of 2016, I had the “dream job”, amazing husband, adorable baby...and yet. It was like the more I had, the more I was disappointing everyone. I felt trapped, and overwhelmed and like a completely ungrateful witch with a B for feeling the way I felt. Quite honestly, I was literally sick and tired. 

The truth is we all feel this way from time to time and there are 3 (not so obvious) root causes for the sick and tired feelings that come from "Having it all". Below is a brief overview of each root cause:

1)  Perfectionist Syndrome: When we put equal pressure on ourselves to give 100% to every single responsibility in our life we wind up being so depleted and resentful we don't have much left to give to ourselves. We shortchange our REAL priorities and we put ourselves in a chronic state of stress. Symptoms of P.S. include but aren't limited to: anger, resentment, brain fog, fatigue, headaches, body pain, anxiety, sleepless nights.  

2) People-Pleaser's Disease: When we can't say no or risk disappointing other people we often wind up disappointing ourselves for years. Symptoms and side effects of PPD include: anxiety, depression, chronic pain, overwhelm, exhaustion, just to name a few. 

3) Values Deficiency:  If you aren't clear on your priorities and what really matters to you (a.k.a your values) you'll all too often fall into the trap of feeling scattered and lost. Signs of Values Deficiency include: confusion, hopelessness, lack of direction, lack of purpose. 

The good news? You can reverse all of these dis-eases in your life through deep reflection, followed by mindset shifts and by putting your new beliefs into action.

And once you're in remission? You guess it...you'll actually experience the amazing feeling of having it all--all of what you actually want!

In my next post I'll walk you through a more detailed approach for curing Perfectionist Syndrome so keep an eye out!

If this post inspired any “ah-ha” moments for you, or you've cured any of the syndromes above, please share in the comments! Your experience could give someone else hope or at the very least make them feel less alone. 

Here's to you helping yourself to a happier life!

KV




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